My Un-word for 2014. What’s yours? Join us. #unword2014
Tuesday, January 14, 2014 by {darlene}

Un-word of the Year

I have loved the idea of crafting a word for each new year. Have you noticed this trend spreading around the internet? Have you picked your word? What a wonderful way to refocus based on each new season of our lives. And goodness knows, seasons change! Each time I picked a word of the year, it brought me a special perspective for my new season. Last year, my word of the year was Smile. In 2012, my word was Do.

This year, I didn’t have to think much to come up with my word. It was already there, waiting for me.

Except, this year, my word just so happens to be an Un-word!

An Un-word?? What is that?

Well, it is my focus word for something I need to RID myself of in the New Year.

I just do NOT need one more thing to do. Instead, I need to Un-do.

Is anyone else with me on this? I think as women we are so gifted at adding More More More, and saying Yes Yes Yes. And then one little thing or one little ‘yes’ SNOWBALLS until we cannot even think straight or we simply find ourselves in the muck. This is not God’s plan for our lives…. to let all the noise drown out the important things.

I am tired of it. The things I really need, are already right in front of me. And frankly, like most of you,

I am just too overwhelmed to keep drowning in the things that I am not called to be doing right now.

And I am not the only one. In fact, some of my awesome friends are joining me today in sharing their Un-words.  And then, we are inviting you to join us too!  I do so hope that you will.


So, my Un-Word — the main thing I am saying GOODBYE to in 2014 — is


guilt pin

Guilt. The self-inflicted kind. And it is high time I kick this party-pooper out of my life.

This guilt constantly pesters me, making me feel like I should be everything to everyone, and yet I am falling short. Those words that parade through my head, chanting “I feel bad. I feel bad. I feel bad.” I feel bad that I never bring cookies. I feel bad that I didn’t bring her that meal. I feel bad that I didn’t write him back. I feel bad that I didn’t get that thank you note out yet. I feel bad that I raised my voice at him. I am not talking about the pangs of regret that lead to good change. I am talking about constant, self-inflicted, feel-bad-edness. It’s like the Little-Engine-that-Hated-Herself.

I am tired of this self-inflicted pain. And I am ready to give it the boot. To Un-word it.

Unword2014 Fieldstone Hill Design

I have a lot of wonderful things in my life. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life. But, like so many women, I try to be a little bit of something to everyone and everything. This is due to a lack of focus sometimes, yes. But also, it is sometimes due to guilt. Guilting me right into good things… that often keep me from being present in the BEST things.

When I take a look at what I ‘do’ right now in my life, the list itself makes me lose my breath and want to find the nearest sand-hole for burying my head. Frankly, it overwhelms me! I have a to-do list of things that MUST get done, and I don’t even have enough time to do those things… let alone things I would like to get done.  But just because this is my reality, does not mean that I need to live inside a tortured mind – A mind that is constantly degrading itself, saying “You are not enough.” A mind that is saying, “I feel bad about this. I feel bad about that.”

Because the reality is, I am nobody’s Savior.

And this self-inflicted guilt is simply Idolatry. An Idolatry that says, “You should fix everyone’s problems. You should help everyone. You should be everything to everyone.”

So guilt. I unFriend you. I am going to bring you out of the dark corners of my mind, and into the light by being aware of your sneaky voice. And when you show your chanty-“I feel bad”-kinda-voice, I will be ready for you. Because I know that you are my Un-word. And you can no longer sneak around in my head, unnoticed.

I am hoping that this Un-word will make a real difference in my year. And, I am hoping that choosing an Un-word will be a revolution of living with true Beauty in our lives. So, to that end, I invited some of my dearest friends to join me in sharing their Un-words. I am so excited to hop over to their blogs and read about what they will saying goodbye to in 2014.

Myquillyn, the Nester, at Nesting Place

Edie at Life In Grace

Angela at The Painted House

Let’s make this a revolution together.

Let’s say goodbye to some unneeded, yucky stuff in 2014!!

Then, let’s band together: Join us for the #unword2014 Linky party, next Tuesday, January 21 .

Craft your thoughts on your own Un-word, and share it in a post and come on over and link up next week. If you don’t have a blog, I would LOVE for you to still share your #unword2014 via Instagram (be sure to tag your post with #unword2014), or by leaving your Un-word in the comments next week. It’s an idea whose time has come!

Will you be joining us?








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