Empty Pitcher (when you have nothing left to give) #PitcherGirls
Sunday, March 20, 2016 by {darlene}

I have missed this space and I have missed you! In fact, I have tried to sit down and write a post countless times, because this space and this fellowship is sacred to me. Because “Living with Beauty” is my calling and I love pouring this calling out upon other women. But the words won’t come. I just stare at the screen, and the only words that come are:

“I have nothing left to give.”

Have you ever felt that way? Completely depleted?

There is this particular expression that I have carried through my adult life, that I attribute to my mom, and I have found it to be true again and again:

You can’t pour water from an empty pitcher. (<- tweet this)

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For the last year+ in fact, my pitcher is barely staying full. I have about 1 droplet left in my pitcher.

This is only to be expected. I have a toddler. I homeschool two very active boys. I am a wife. I am a business owner.  I am a daughter and sister and friend and church member and co-op member and an artist and a designer and a writer and a dream-weaver.  My life is FILLED to the messy brim, you could say, and yet… my pitcher is empty. Indeed, I have nothing left to pour out.

And if I am being honest with you (which, why the heck not?)… I would tell you:

I have been blaming my circumstances for my emptiness.

But it is not the truth.

Circumstances are hard. Some circumstances are impossibly hard. But, oh my, I am old enough to know that LIFE itself is hard. If I am going to let hard circumstances empty me… then I am resigned to a lifetime of feeling tapped out. Empty.

Yes, this season I am in is a brief season and a trying season. No, my baby won’t always be in her terrible twos. My boys won’t always be navigating growth spurts and pre-adolescence. I will not always feel defeated and feel invisible. But the next hard-thing WILL come along, that is rest assured.

If I want to live my life with a full pitcher, then I am going to have to learn how to do it in the MIDST of hard things.

 

So, when I finally admit that things cannot go on with empty-pitcher status, I do the only thing that ever really works:

I return to the Word of God, with FULL admittance that I am not in control and cannot do this alone.

Oh, yes. I have long known ‘to Whom I shall go’ to be filled… and I laugh at myself that, for some thick-headed reason, I need to learn this lesson OVER AND OVER again. Because, I am always delighted that, just like clockwork, when I go to the Word, I am reminded that:

when I feel trapped in a cave, I have a God who specializes in coming into our darkness.

when I feel stuck in a pit with slippery walls, there is always a Hand reaching down for me. I simply have to admit my need and take the hand.

when I am knee deep in the lies that deplete my full Pitcher…..

The pride lie that says, “You should be able to do it all.”

The fear lie that says, “You will never get out of here.”

The comparison lie that says, “Look at everyone else. They have it all figured out.”

there is a way to stop these lies in their tracks: We must cover the lies with Truth.

 

But here’s the rub. Sometimes we know that Truth sits just across the room, sitting on a shelf, waiting for a minute of our time. And we just cannot seem to get there ourselves. THAT, my friends, is when we NEED EACH OTHER.

We have to reach out in humble hope to dear friends who can point us to the Truth. Reach out to those, with flesh on their bones, who can call out the nasty lies for what they are and speak truth over our lives. And DON’T believe the lie that no one wants to be there for you, no one loves you and you are alone.

Instead, type out the humbling message to your friend:

“I need you to speak Truth into my life. I am spiraling in the empty spaces.”

 
Don’t sit around with an empty Pitcher, waiting. There is Living Water that is ready to fill it at a moment’s notice.

 

A very important Post Script:

I highly recommend gathering a very small group of women, those who you know bring out the best in you – in Truth, and making a sincere effort to meet with them on a monthly basis. The goal being: filling each other’s Pitchers with Truth. These girls in my life are my Pitcher Girls. I need them, and I don’t want to do this life without them! #Pitcher Girls

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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MY GENEROUS SPONSOR:

This blog post is generously sponsored by my YL. I am into natural choices for my family, and this is the main way I avoided toxins during pregnancy, and now our family is hooked. My Young Living essential oils are also my business, and the oils are so well loved that they sponsor my blog!!! Thank you, friends!  Enroll by clicking here.

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The 3000 Thing Challenge
Thursday, December 31, 2015 by {darlene}

The 3000 Thing Challenge

Do you own stuff? Or does your stuff own you? Join me in the 3000 Thing Challenge!

3000 Thing Challenge via @fieldstonehill

Every once in a while, I get so tired of it, I could scream.

Stuff takes OVER.

And you have heard me say here before that “You cannot have a beautiful space if it is filled with junk.” Tough love? Maybe. But it is true. If you look around you and see clutter and pieces and papers and piles… you will not experience the freedom that comes with a beautiful, clean slate.

In the month of January, I am taking a simple challenge that I heard about from my friend Nicole. I decided to make it a “Thing,” and I do so hope you will join me!!!

Do you own stuff? Or does your stuff own you? Join me in the 3000 Thing Challenge! #declutter #3000ThingChallenge (<-Tweet This)

All you need to do is get rid of 3000 Things in the month of January.

Give them away. Donate them en masse. Throw them out. Get them out from under your roof. 3000 things.

Go one drawer at a time. One closet at a time. Do a little each day. Or go to town for 5 days straight. Or dive in each weekend.

But imagine how much lighter you could feel in the New Year if you owned your stuff, instead of it owning you?? I, for one, am done with being a slave to a bunch of things!

For people who are overwhelmed at the thought… just think: you could probably toss at least 100 things from your junk drawer of pens and pencils alone! 100 little things a day will add up to 3000 things (+ or -) in the first month of 2016!

Are you ready to start this year a little lighter?

If so, comment below and tell us all that you are IN!!!

PS There are a zillion awesome posts out there on the HOW of decluttering. Just do a quick Pinterest search and you will find something great. Questions you can ask yourself, etc. My advice? I just chant “Be ruthless. Be ruthless. Be ruthless.” when I declutter. You can do this!

 

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MY GENEROUS SPONSOR:

This post is generously sponsored by my YL. I am into natural choices for my family, and this is the main way I avoided toxins during pregnancy, and now our family is hooked. My Young Living essential oils are also my business, and the oils are so well loved that they sponsor my blog!!! Thank you, friends!  Enroll by clicking here.

I am SUPER excited about the new Premium Starter Kit. You are going to LOVE it… unless you hate things that smell heavenly and make you smile. #spaliving #livewithbeauty #wellness #MyHouseSmellsLikeASpa

Questions? Head here:

Why Everyone is into Essential Oils, and are they for me? A NO NONSENSE guide to answer your questions. via @fieldstonehill www.fieldstonehilldesign/young-living

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When the Pantone Color of the Year is a 90’s Victorian nightmare
Tuesday, December 8, 2015 by {darlene}

When the Pantone Color of the Year is a 90’s Victorian nightmare

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When I saw the Pantone Colors of 2016 ( more is more. we now have 2 Colors of the year), these are the thoughts that entered my mind:

1.  Oh yes. I painted my Victorian dollhouse those exact colors. A long time ago.

2. The Barbie dream house is finally “in” again. Alleluia.

3. Thomas Kincade, may he rest in peace, would have been TOTALLY psyched.

Friends. Shall I confess? I do not currently plan on using these colors in my home. Especially the blue tone of “Serenity,” which is truly not a fan fave of mine. To me, Serenity, is the epitome of country blue and can only be used successfully by the rare decorating genius, like Angela or Kelly Wearstler. Just being honest.

Then, I silenced the critic and went on a hunt to see if I could even find some beautiful fashion and interior spaces that were based on this combo. And in my snarky, yet humble, opinion, I think I found some winners. Just a few:

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Dear friends. That is all I’ve got for you on this one.

What about you? What do YOU think of the Pantone Colors of 2016??

 

 

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MY GENEROUS SPONSOR:

This post is generously sponsored by my YL. I am into natural choices for my family, and this is the main way I avoided toxins during pregnancy, and now our family is hooked. My Young Living essential oils are also my business, and the oils are so well loved that they sponsor my blog!!! Thank you, friends!  Enroll by clicking here.

I am SUPER excited about the new Premium Starter Kit. You are going to LOVE it… unless you hate things that smell heavenly and make you smile. #spaliving #livewithbeauty #wellness #MyHouseSmellsLikeASpa

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Decorate with Buffalo Check
Wednesday, November 4, 2015 by {darlene}

Are you in love with Buffalo check?

I am! I am!

Buffalo Check Studio McGee via @fieldstonehill

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Buffalo Check Miss Mustard Seed via @fieldstonehill

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I am over at the Better Homes and Gardens website today, sharing some tips for incorporating Buffalo check into your home, whether you love it a little or love it a lot.

It would mean the world if you would hop over to BHG.com and join me there!

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Also, if you are a fan of glorious pattern, you may have fun over at my My Thing For Bold Patterns Pinterest board!

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Want to use more bold pattern, but think you can’t pull it off??  Well RUN – do not walk – to read this encouragement (How to be more GUTSY with your decorating) and this encouragement (Be that Person). I heart you, and you can TOTALLY pull it off!!!

 

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Take daily, bite-size steps toward living in a home you LOVE: Be sure to subscribe to FHD via emailbloglovin, your fave reader, and follow Fieldstone Hill on TwitterInstagram, and Facebook!

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MY GENEROUS SPONSOR:

This post is generously sponsored by my YL. I am into natural choices for my family, and this is the main way I avoided toxins during pregnancy, and now our family is hooked. My Young Living essential oils are also my business, and the oils are so well loved that they sponsor my blog!!! Thank you, friends!  Enroll by clicking here.

I am SUPER excited about the new Premium Starter Kit. You are going to LOVE it… unless you hate things that smell heavenly and make you smile. #spaliving #livewithbeauty #wellness #MyHouseSmellsLikeASpa

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