Thank you for joining me and chiming in on this series: Overcoming Decorating Paralysis. You all have had such great thoughts throughout this series.
I can’t wait to hear what you have to say today!
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We have been discussing the three steps we need to take in order to identify what we truly love.
1. We need to start by accepting that our opinions can and will change. {check out this post}
2. We need to put in the work to narrow down what we love, and discover we CAN have a few definite things that define our style, {check out this post} and
3. We need to have confidence. If we have confidence in the things we truly love, we can even begin to move toward having a “signature look.”
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Well, today, we will deal with step number three: Confidence! I will be splitting this up into two posts, one will address finding confidence in your decorating, and the next will address finding your “signature look.”
Whew. I need to take a deep breath. This is a heavy topic.
Because finding confidence in your decorating is a PROCESS, and a JOURNEY. So, we are not going to arrive today. And this one post is not going to be like a Confidence-Pill for decorating.
Let’s all start off on the same foot, shall we?
1. Confidence can be built. There IS hope!
2. It REALLY helps to build your confidence if you can accurately identify what you love. So don’t skip the step of doing your Personal Style Bootcamp WORK!
3. Everyone. Everyone. struggles with Confidence. {Oh, I am fully convinced that those who appear as though they don’t struggle at all with confidence – well – they may just suffer the most from the lack of it}
4. Confident decorating is different from bold or loud decorating. Confident decorating simply means that you can identify what you love, and then, you go ahead and decorate with what you love. Confidence comes from knowing WHO WE ARE, and WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO US, and then bravely making decisions based on those truths. Despite other voices.
Do you struggle from a lack of confidence when it comes to decorating?
Do you overthink all of your decorating decisions? beat them to death?
Does the notion of “just going for it” petrify you?
Do you think about what others will think when it comes to making decisions for your home?
Do you tell yourself you are terrible at decorating?
Do you allow your style to constantly be swayed by the things OTHER people like?
These are just a few symptoms of a lack-of-confidence in decorating. Typically, if you don’t have confidence in your decorating, you tend to at least know that you don’t have confidence.
Sooo…. what to DO about it?
Well, THIS is when I realize that I have attempted to write an impossible post.
The truth is, I cannot fix this one for you. I can barely even scratch the surface.
But, I can encourage you:
Find your Confidence by:
Knowing exactly who you are.
Believing in yourself.
Loving what you love, and DON’T apologize for it.
TRUSTING yourself a little bit, for goodness sake.
And taking a risk. Go for it. just TRY.
Giving yourself permission to make mistakes.
Stop judging your space before you have had a chance to pull it all together.
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Achieving these things is a process. One that takes time, and one that takes mental editing. We must tell some of the voices in our mind to “GO PACKING!” while replacing those negative thoughts with new ones.
Below are some quotes that I love. You may not have ever thought about them in the context of decorating your home, but the truth is, your home is just another extension of yourself. Your home DOES reflect part of your personality, your psyche. So chew on these thoughts in reference to the art of decorating your home:
“Why not go out on a limb? That’s where the fruit is.” – Mark Twain
“Don’t believe everything you think.” – unknown
“You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.” – John Mason
“If you wait for perfect conditions, you’ll never get anything done.” -unknown
“She believed she could. So she did.” – unknown
“Don’t be afraid to fail. Be afraid not to try.” – unknown
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
“A year from now, you will wish you had started today.” – Karen Lamb
Love some of these quotes? Write them down in your design notebook: Get yourself a gorgeous blank notebook that makes you smile and dream. {I like this journal
And Remember:
Confidence was not built in a day.
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